Journey With My First Boo 2

We started talking and he went to the issue of kissing but this time, he said he would not force me if I wasn't ready. I was deeply in love with him. (or so you thought) I closed all the windows so no one would see us and I said “Kiss me”. He kissed me and he said “let's have Sex”. {Insert mysterious tune here}

I told him I was a Virgin and that there would be blood everywhere and he jokingly said, “how many tanks of blood do you have there?”. He told me there was a way he would do it and everything was going to be fine. I felt that I was ready and I was really going to have sex with him but I remembered something. My elder sisters got pregnant when they were teenagers and I was just 16 as at that time. I told him to stop that I wasn't ready. Then he stopped and told me he was leaving. That was the last time I saw him and the relationship ended.

It has been 3 years since then and we haven’t been communicating. You can guess what my age is now, right. I am in my last lap of being a teenager. Definitely, I felt impure for kissing him and I lived with the guilt for a very long time. My conscience kept blaming me for betraying my mum's trust. But I gained my confidence in God and other people's story. Then I made up my mind to save my next kiss for my wedding day.

You might have been in this phase and perhaps yours was different. You had sex but fortunately, you didn't get pregnant. I wouldn't want you to condemn yourself, saying “I’m not longer a Virgin or pure. I would recommend a book titled “And the bride wore white”. I just finished the book and I learnt a whole lot. Whatever I would love to add is in the book. You should promise me you would read the book. Search for it online and download the PDF.

Our mistakes do not define who we are. We have made some silly mistakes but we have learnt our lessons as well. We are advocates of Sexual purity and with the help of God we will keep ourselves until we meet "the One".

You might not be in a relationship or you might be in one now. Mind you, the fact that you support Sex before marriage doesn't make you a bad person, maybe you just need to consider what the Bible has to say about it.

 I’ll round up with a few tips on how to be sexually pure.

#You have to Know that Sex before marriage is a sin. Everywhere it is mentioned in the scriptures, it is described within the context of marriage.

#The brain is the greatest sex organ. It therefore means your brain is involved in your journey of sexual purity. It all starts from the mind. Therefore, let your mind be constantly filled with the word of God. Be renewed daily as Paul puts it in Romans 12:1

#Set boundaries of time. If you are in a relationship already, you should avoid being with boo or bae at odd hours. Don't trust yourself in the dark, it could be risky.

#Set boundaries of touch. You aren't a robot. Your sexual hormones are working. Let's not be stupid to think we can't fall. Women are like hotplates, permit me. We move from coldness to hotness then when it becomes hot, it is hard to make it cold.

# Set boundaries of space and location. Don't always meet boo or bae alone in the room. Always be among the right set of people in the right place.

# Set boundaries of words. Be careful of people who speak sexual words to you. It's not healthy for you. Remember that evil communication corrupts good manners.

#Set boundaries of sight. It is advisable to avoid seeing each other frequently but make sure your communication is on point

#Avoid movies and media that involve activities of a sexual nature or that are suggestive of the same. Don’t be ignorant of the devices of the devil, even in the media.

#Be with someone who shares the same belief with you. This is very essential. It is possible your sexual hormones become uncontrollable sometimes. Do two walk together except they make an appointment and have agreed? (Amos 3:3)

In all, a determination to stay pure coupled with discipline can help set you on the right path to sexual purity. Deola has pretty much opened her heart to us and like we indicated at the start of this post, this is not some manufactured story but the story of a teenager like us who has tried some things and is now communicating the value learned across to dear friends.

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Compiled by Leye Abiola

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