Distinguished Family

   Adesua is a final year high school student who dreams to make it to the best university in the country, study law, become a hotshot lawyer and entrepreneur and of course make the society proud. As much as she is a dreamer of everything beautiful, she’s many miles away from having a total grasp of what happens to her 24 hours everyday. Are her dreams great? Yes. Would her passivity to how she spends each day be a big deal? Loud Yes! Creating a great daily routine is a concept and practice that should be the peak of interest in the heart of every individual who dreams to rise to the top. Now, for the sake of broad comprehension, let’s go for a nice breakdown. What are routines? Routines are sets of habits that are engaged on a regular basis. Routines are basically what you do every time. Routines aren’t necessarily always great. They can either be great or not, depending on the choices of the subject person. I’m sure we’re all about creating a great one here. ...

The game Just like the one with the highest bid. Not the mediocre in thought, Who is myopic in sight. Should he wear the crown? It's a game of thoughts. Still thinking like a child? Acting like him with no understanding. The game is on! Think big. As He has said; As he thinks in his heart, so is he. Not to give high hopes or to give a false reality. Have you thought of yourself the way the creator thinks? A champion does not just think about the crown. He goes all the miles to win it. Seek for him with a thought backed up by the right actions Not worrying about the situation around or the happenings of the past mistakes. Thinking of a way better than before. Of what meal do you feed your mind? Man's words or God's? Let God be true and man a liar. Is it the laziness in your bones that has eaten deep into your heart that you are blinded to see and perceive that you pay no price to think. Just think big. Shall a fool walk with fools and eat the meal of the wise? Sh...

You matter. Even if you think say your matter no dey God hand, E no matter. Just know say you matter. You matter, no matter the matter.  You should have heard folks say to you harmlessly God doesn't need you You need Him Look! Forget that! It's mutual! Why would the Creator create something that means little or nothing to Him? Oh yeah, HE created a lot of other creatures. Okay, Why would He create you in His image if He doesn't want,need and value you? Why would He create you in His likeness if you don't matter? Why would His Son Jesus Christ come down in flesh to die just for you if you don't matter? Tell me why? HE created you, breathed into you, called you His own! To your questions, you may be out of answers. But that doesn't mean you do not matter. That storm may rage and seem to overwhelm you altogether. But I say to you, God's telling you to come! And you're gon' walk on that water. You may have fallen into the hands of...

Dear Distinguished,     You are the express image of your Father. God created you and He saw that you are GOOD. Do not let someone brainwash you into inferiority complex due to your height, weight, skin colour or texture. When you take people's comments as compliments, their words will have less negative effects on you.    Who caught that? I'm sure you did. I understood this sometime in 2019 and my perspective on being called 'short' changed. When light shone on me, I began to see the bright side of things. So now if you call me short girl, I'll  smile and give you three reasons to prove my height is cute. Few months ago, in March, a roommate said to me, 'you're the happiest short person I know. When told they're short, most people flare up in anger but you laugh it off and look for ways to get back at us lol'. It was actually funny and hearing the other ladies in the room affirm it just brought a glow to my face.     D...

Speaking of a tomb. What's so beautiful about it for God's sake? Have you ever considered the tomb? I mean those ones with great and decorated engravings not to speak of the price and all that has been contributed to it? Not considering its worth when measured. As beautiful as it may seem one major thing is certain  once it is opened those who admire it surely will take to their heels. Why?  Thinking about it, why will God choose to deal with the heart and not consider beauty, height or weight or even physique? Taking a closer look at this part of the Bible I hope you will be able to point out those little foxes which spoils your precious vine and makes you feel like a bad breath.  Matthew  15:11  Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man.   Matthew  15:18  But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.For out...

Self-discovery is a lifelong exploration through our inner self, trying to discover who we are, our potential, our purpose in life, and what core principles are guiding us to take different paths along the way. The journey starts with self awareness then explores personal interests as well as hopes and dreams for the future. The journey eventually leads us to self knowledge which will enable us to guide ourselves towards situations and experience in which we'll thrive. Jeremiah 29:11For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Now, let's talk about one or two factors that result in self discovery. 🥂   * Self - awareness * : There's a prior need to identify what you are before going ahead to discover who you are It is in the process of getting aware of self that the discovery of self rubs off. And as believers, our identity is engrafted in the word o...

Your life and destiny is too precious for one guy/girl to come and play with🧐. You're too important to remain a mess, rise up and be all God wants you to be; your mess can be turned to your message🤜🤛. Don't remain on the ground level, guy/girl stand up. Shine forth that little light in you✨. So to the koko of the matter🤪, cut off every relationship (no be only boo/bae relationship ohh, any one at all like friends with benefit🙄, even friends sef) that's sucking you like mosquito (sometimes it can be gentle, you won't know it's sucking you until you fall sick😩). Abeg guy/girl end it. *Stand on God's ground, no SUM (sex until marriage),* don't let that brother/sister cheat you. Don't fall for lies like if you leave nobody will accept you, nobody can love you like I do🙄,..... (LIES) See ehh until you cut off from it, you'll just be wasting and guess what? *YOU'RE IMPORTANT, YES YOU ARE!* Jesus is waiting for you to arise and shine,...

Dear Distinguished,     What can separate you from the love of Christ? A happy family? Three square meals with appetizers and desserts? Admission? All A's or a perfect G.P.? Pride? Laziness? Procrastination? Peer pressure? A sickness or a disease?     Okay, okay, okay... I get it. These are the least of your worries ehn? Or I even mentioned a particular shoe that itches you I just do not know where or how hard it's biting? You'll have to forgive me dearest. I may not be able to diagnose what you're going through but I do know an ever present help -tested and trusted (winks).     And guess what, He does not just care and leaves the healing to God. He cares, cures and makes whole. He asks you to cast all your cares on Him. He's concerned about you and wishes above all things that you prosper. By now you know Who I'm referring to. Don't you?     With Jesus in your boat, all the storms will be calmed. The presence of ...

I want to go back to yesterday When I was just a new born Those days seems far away Once again, I wish it can be dawn Those days I felt your love Now, I've never been this so off Those days you'd scold if I don't pray before a meal. And told me it means that I am conscious of your presence Those days I could barely go a kilometer in a bus, Without either feeling bad 'Cos I couldn't tell people about you Or feel fulfilled because I expressively spoke about you Now, preaching to the air is more difficult Than cramming some set of physics formula I went to church after a long while And heard the preacher holler something like Wilderness experience. Is this what is like? I come to a point sometimes I doubt you Even after those days I spoke to the weather in your name, It did obey. Even those days I spoke to power supply, It did obey. Even those days I stepped into the wisdom of you. Right now, I forgot about all that. Jesus, that's not bad r...

“There’s something else that I'm not proud of. I was at home most of the time during the holiday after junior WAEC and two boys came to stay with us for a week. Their mum was hospitalized so my mum offered to house them till she came back. During that period, I abused the younger of them. I knew better than to hurt a young boy's emotion but I have no idea why I did that. Maybe I wanted to know what it felt like having the upper hand or being the bigger person. I have no justifications for my actions and till date, I wonder what became of him and I'm sure he would be holding grudges. He was 8 years old then and I did not forget nor forgive myself completely until sometime last year. How long would it take him? They moved back to their dad's hometown not long after the mum returned and that was the end of that chapter.” If you have not read part 1, please click here https://distinguishedteenagers.blogspot.com/2020/05/tales-of-girl-child-non-fiction.html “Occasion...

I want to start by expressing my hope that from these teenage issues that you have been reading since we began, one of the resolutions you must have made is to become friends with your unborn children, especially to see them through their teenage years. Creating a close bond with them will help them feel close to you, and find you accessible when the need arises. This way, they will not have to opt in for negative sources when things go awry. Before I go into parenting tips mode, lets read together another story of a teenager who went through abuse at an early age and from there was drawn on. You would agree with me, eh. You’re still a teenager, aren’t you? Joy grew up without a brother so she pretty much regarded every male in the extended family as brother. And since they all lived together, she had many cousins, uncles and surrogate brothers who filled in that gap.   This familiarity  and closeness gave one of her mothers’ cousin, (whom we shall call Uncle I) ...

FATE. It fills us with a dread, An awakening that rather should be laid to sleep. Reminding us of the paths we take to death, It is judgement to our souls indeed. Fate, a constant reminder that we don't make our choices, That our paths have been set by someone who controls destiny. Why live when you'd eventually die? Why succeed when you'd eventually fail? Why take chances when you'd eventually be defeated? Why not stay down when you won't be lifted? Fate fills us with a gloom, A misery that stops us from trying to bloom. But knowledge is light, they say, Knowing your faith helps you not to fail. But shall you know something you can't change? Shall you allow such knowledge to haunt you? What will be will always be, It's torment to try to change it. But is our fate really set? To the dictates of destiny, are we really helpless? Or isn't our mindset controlled by what we see? And isn't it the pain around us that has defined ...

    It's been a long time without you my friend; I'll tell you a little bit in this letter. The rest will wait till after this lock down eh? Good. Recall that ten-years-challenge thingy back in 2018? Well, I should tell you why I did not participate. Shouldn't I? The thing was that I could find no pictures of myself as a baby/child. I did something interesting though. I wrote a poem highlighting how much I had grown in ten years.    April's theme for Distinguished Teenagers was Growth and I actually learnt a lot which aided my growth. The compulsory holiday has been a blessing in disguise. As much as I'll like to admit that I could not read much, I'm grateful for the little I've improved on and learnt so far. After this lock down, if you see me going about with pieces of fabric, needles and threads just shey normal.😂😂😂    Let's even put the lock down aside, as a true child of your Father, how much have you grown?🤔🤔🤔 If you're still in t...

Shall it stand? Should it fall? A life giving power it has, Still crude at its living. For the seeds the soil was made, Not to be suspended in the air, for there's no increase therein, and its full worth not known. The forests in it, The birds to seek refuge from. Many mouths to feed from it. Still standing. It's fall is for a rising. The worms will test its coat, And the waters will sweep it away. The heat of the sun will try in all its might that it be consumed. If it shall gather much earth, Shall it not survive? It Will for He will perform. It is risen from the ashes of defeat. I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, Unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains [just one grain; it never becomes more but lives] by itself alone. But if it dies, it produces many others and yields a rich harvest. The reality of it is that those trials and troubles are for a while. Joy is coming because the morning is nigh. Zechariah  13:9  And...

 Success, as we all know, means the universe to virtually every human being. In our various endeavours in life, ranging from academics to business to skills amidst others, success is always the definitive endpoint. Hence, we cannot overemphasize the place of this topic. As I’ve often explained in most of my articles, success is not that byproduct thing that rubs off on you by chance, it is a product of careful efforts. These efforts could be habits or better put, they are habits as they are to be consciously practised overtime to lay hold of success. From widespread observations and personal deductions. These six things are sure habits of success: 1. Reading of books Show me a successful man, I’ll show you a passionate reader. The saying that readers are leaders is not a cliche perhaps you thought it was. Being successful takes a lot of smart work and reading is a habit that cannot be evaded in this case. To be success...

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. Izaak Walton It is not enough that a man has visions. Men like Bezaleel and Aholiab are needed to help fulfill Moses’ mandate. The Comforter We all have a part to play in our lives and in the lives of those who are around us. Following the right paths, treading on the unhampered steps daily and looking up to the most perfect example, Jesus, we are sure to get there. He daily loads us with benefits and so much wisdom to walk through victoriously. Understanding times and seasons as well as being equipped with the knowledge of His will will certainly help at all times. You are not in this alone. You need a companion and I mean people of substance. As regards the vision ahead you really need not to walk alone. There are gifts of men around you. Come to think about it, it is clearly stated in Proverbs 27:17 that Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend. Let’s break this down a little bit. What w...